Adult Mental Health

I have had to break up with my best friend. She was not able to listen to my feelings about things in the friendship. She also stopped spending time with me like we used to and would never tell me why. I feel sad and hurt and am in a deep depression I am struggling to get out of. I blame myself. I will still have to see her on occasion. How can I get out of this deep depression and deal with times I may have to see her?

Making new friends is hard, especially as an adult with the added layer of living in a new city. But finding those connections are so important for our mental health and well-being, as friendships help us find a sense of belonging, boost our happiness, and can help build our self-esteem. Here are a few tips on how to create new relationships in a new community. 

This time of year, many people find themselves setting resolutions for different aspects of their lives, including goals related to improving their mental health. By following a few key strategies, you can increase your chances of success and make meaningful progress towards better mental health in this next year.

It’s that time of year when all I hear about is self-improvement and New Year’s resolutions. I’d love to get on board, but for me, getting out of bed is a challenge this time of year. I feel like I set self-improvement goals, fail to meet them, and then I feel terrible about myself. Any advice?

Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” when they want and still maintain close, honest, positive relationships. Healthy boundaries are especially important during high-stress times like the holiday season. To help you establish and maintain your own boundaries this year, try these helpful tips to care for yourself while also nurturing your relationships.

I am concerned about my 19-year-old daughter, who lives with me, because she does not take proper care of her hygiene. I don't know if she is just being lazy or if there is some other underlying issue. I don't know if I'm partly to blame because it's something I've always done for her and just expected her to start doing it on her own as she got older. I'm at a loss and could use some much-needed advice.

Luke Spiegelhoff, LICSW, Clinical Director at Nexus-FACTS, joined KSTP-TV's Minnesota Live to talk about the pressure of the holidays. Take a look at his advice to relieve the holiday stress here!

The end of the year can be comforting in its familiarity. Clustered with moments of tradition, we often have anchors that connect us to the past. It is so easy to not fully notice life when we have been with the person, done this action, had this routine so many times before. Treating each moment of “here” as a powerful stranger has piqued my interest and sharpened my attention.

I don’t know how to describe this, but I have a constant sense of trying to keep up. I worry that what I’m doing isn’t good enough. I compare myself and my life to others and what other people have. I just feel so behind on life. Do you have any ideas on how to combat this? It’s so draining. I just want to be happy.

A list of ideas for finding an item or a gesture to express gratitude to a loved one.