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Every Tuesday, Dr. Michelle K. Murray, CEO of Nexus Family Healing, provides information on family relations and mental health. Submit Your Question.


Family discussions at the dinner table

Political Discussions with Your Family

Dear Dr. Michelle:

My family is split when it comes to political views. With the holidays coming up, how do we have these discussions without ending up in a fight?


Depressed man holding his head in his hands

I Think I Am Depressed

Dear Dr. Michelle: 

I think I’m depressed, and I don't know who I should to talk to about it. It's been months or maybe years. I cry endlessly and don’t know why. Sometimes I just want to end my life. I am easily irritated even by the little things. I want to go to the doctor, but I don't know where to start.

Mother talking to daughter

Lending Money to My Daughter

Dear Dr. Michelle:

A few years back, I gave my daughter a significant amount of money because she had lost her job and was struggling to make ends meet. She’s been doing well for some time even though we are dealing with COVID. She has not made any attempt to pay me back and when I brought it up, she says she does not have the money.

Stormy Clouds

I Blame Myself for My Best Friend's Suicide

Dear Dr. Michelle:

My friend hung himself 15 years ago and I still blame myself. Every day I feel like I’m just going through the motions and can’t seem to feel excited about anything.


I Am Afraid My Wife Is Having an Affair

I Am Afraid My Wife Is Having an Affair

Dear Dr. Michelle:

I am reaching out because things are not going well between my wife and me. Over the last several years we have become very distant. She seems very distracted and I am afraid she is having an affair.

Father Talking to Son

My Son Is Out of Control

Dear Dr. Michelle:

Our 14-year-old son is out of control. He is very aggressive toward family members and we fear for our safety. We have tried family therapy and we have had counselors come to our home and work with him. It helps for a little while and then his aggression returns. We are thinking about having him placed in a residential treatment program.

Couple arguing in front of children.

My Girlfriend Wants Her Kids to Call Me Dad

Dear Dr. Michelle:

My girlfriend and I just moved in together after dating for about 2 years. She has a 13-year-old son and a 10-year-old daughter who live with us full time. They are great kids and we get along really well, but my girlfriend is pressuring the kids to call me dad and I don’t think that’s a good idea.

Sad Adult

I'm Always Upset and Not Sure What To Do

Dear Dr. Michelle:

I feel upset all of time. It has been like this for several years. Nothing seems to go right, and nothing makes me feel better. I don't know what to do.

Teen Anger

Is Teen Anger Connected to Childhood Trauma?

Dear Dr. Michelle:

I was wondering if you could help me to better understand how early childhood trauma would affect a person’s behavior. Have you seen any correlations of certain forms of trauma and anger in early adolescence?

friends online

My 13-Year-Old Says Making Friends Is Easier Online

Dear Dr. Michelle: 

My 13-year-old son (soon to be 14) is having a hard time maintaining friendships. As a result, he tells his dad and me that he is lonely and then moves to “online friends,” which are really people he doesn’t know. He says that when he goes online, he can be who he wants and can just tell them the good stuff.