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Every Tuesday, Dr. Michelle K. Murray, CEO of Nexus Family Healing, provides information on family relations and mental health. Submit Your Question.


I Am Afraid My Wife Is Having an Affair

I Am Afraid My Wife Is Having an Affair

Dear Dr. Michelle:

I am reaching out because things are not going well between my wife and me. Over the last several years we have become very distant. She seems very distracted and I am afraid she is having an affair.

Father Talking to Son

My Son Is Out of Control

Dear Dr. Michelle:

Our 14-year-old son is out of control. He is very aggressive toward family members and we fear for our safety. We have tried family therapy and we have had counselors come to our home and work with him. It helps for a little while and then his aggression returns. We are thinking about having him placed in a residential treatment program.

Couple arguing in front of children.

My Girlfriend Wants Her Kids to Call Me Dad

Dear Dr. Michelle:

My girlfriend and I just moved in together after dating for about 2 years. She has a 13-year-old son and a 10-year-old daughter who live with us full time. They are great kids and we get along really well, but my girlfriend is pressuring the kids to call me dad and I don’t think that’s a good idea.

Sad Adult

I'm Always Upset and Not Sure What To Do

Dear Dr. Michelle:

I feel upset all of time. It has been like this for several years. Nothing seems to go right, and nothing makes me feel better. I don't know what to do.

Teen Anger

Is Teen Anger Connected to Childhood Trauma?

Dear Dr. Michelle:

I was wondering if you could help me to better understand how early childhood trauma would affect a person’s behavior. Have you seen any correlations of certain forms of trauma and anger in early adolescence?

friends online

My 13-Year-Old Says Making Friends Is Easier Online

Dear Dr. Michelle: 

My 13-year-old son (soon to be 14) is having a hard time maintaining friendships. As a result, he tells his dad and me that he is lonely and then moves to “online friends,” which are really people he doesn’t know. He says that when he goes online, he can be who he wants and can just tell them the good stuff.

impulsive son

My Son Is Impulsive and Has Trouble Making Friends

Dear Dr. Michelle:

My 8-year-old son struggles with impulsivity and has little to no friends that initiate contact with him. He can participate and engage with them but there doesn’t seem to be any bond. How can I help him with his impulse control and fostering friendships?

unusual question

My Son Asked an Unusual Question

Dear Dr. Michelle:

I am concerned for my 12-year-old son. We have allowed him access to violent video games since he was about 10. My wife and I are aware of there being no substantial correlation between video games and violence. Several nights ago at the dinner table he asked what humans tasted like. We laughed it off at first. However, a few nights later he asked about it again.

Baby Sleeping

Should Our Baby Sleep in Our Bed?

Dear Dr. Michelle:

I am getting ready to have my first child and I want the baby to sleep with us in our bed. My husband says he does not care either way, but other family members and friends tell me this is a bad idea because it will cause my child to have future adjustment problems. Is this true?
Sincerely, Aarushi

daughter leaving child

My Daughter Won't Leave Our Grandchild with Us

Dear Dr. Michelle:

We have a grandchild that is 2 years old. We get together for family events and occasional family dinners, but my daughter will not let us babysit or allow our grandchild to spend the night. When we ask her why she just says that she is not ready. It really hurts our feelings and we are not sure what to do about this. How can you help?
Ed and Carol