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Father talking to teen son

My Teenage Son Doesn’t Want to Take Care of Himself. Is This Normal for Teens?

My teen has no motivation to take care of himself - I have to remind him to shower. He sleeps all the time, and he has gained a lot of weight. How do I know if this is typical teen behavior or something more?
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5 Resources You Should Check Out From Our Library

With over 200 articles, videos, blogs, and tools in our resource library, here are five resources you should check out today.
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How Do I Address Hard Conversations With My Family?

My family isn't good at talking about hard things. Anytime something sensitive comes up there is tension and they just gloss over it pretending everything is fine. I have something important to talk to them about, but I don't know how to bring it up. How do I start the conversation?
Picture of a mother frustrated as her toddler cries.

Should I Be Worried About My Child’s Development?

I have been having problems with my toddler.  He cries a lot and seems to be inconsolable. He is 2 and a half years old and is still not talking and he struggles to walk. He doesn’t engage very well when we play. When I take him to the doctor, she tells me to just give it time and doesn’t offer any other advice. Is this normal?
A picture of someone sitting outside with the sunshine behind them, feeling sad.

Can You Have Seasonal Depression in the Summer?

Everyone is excited about summer except me! There always seems to be something going on and I don’t want to miss out, but frankly I don’t feel like doing anything. I just want to stay home and watch tv. Is summer blues a thing?
A mother holding her son's hand as they stand in front of a school

We’re Scared for Our Son’s Safety at School. How Do We Manage Our Fears As the School Year Approaches?

As parents of a 10-year-old we are very anxious about the shootings that keep taking place in schools. We are glad it’s Summer because we don’t want our son at school because we are afraid of what could happen. How do we handle this anxiety and fear? How do we gear up for Fall and feel good about him going back to school?
Picture of a wife seeming anxious, while her husband is in the background pleading to her.

My Husband Wants Me to Go to Therapy With Him, but I’m Scared. What Should I Do?

My husband has been seeing a therapist for a while. And now he wants me to attend his session with him. I’m scared to go because I know they’ve been talking about me and our relationship. It feels like I’ll be ganged up on since it’s his therapist. She will probably take his side on everything. Should I even go?
Sisters standing back to back.

How Do I Navigate a Difficult Relationship With My Sisters?

I am a 33-year female struggling with my relationships with my two older sisters. To do this day my sisters continue to make up lies about me and spread them around to the family and/or on social media. ​​​​​​​How do I deal with my sisters going forward and should I have called the police after the physical event in the car?
Picture of a woman looking at her body in the mirror.

How Do I Help My Wife With Her Insecurities?

My wife complains about how she looks - her hair, her weight, her nose - all the time and I'm not sure how to respond. I think she's beautiful! And I tell her this, but it doesn't seem to sink in. I worry all this negative talk is harmful. And I'm tired of hearing it. I love her - what can I do to reassure her?
friends online

My 13-Year-Old Says Making Friends Is Easier Online

My 13-year-old son (soon to be 14) is having a hard time maintaining friendships. As a result, he tells his dad and me that he is lonely and then moves to “online friends,” which are really people he doesn’t know. He says that when he goes online, he can be who he wants and can just tell them the good stuff. Any suggestions on how to cultivate friendships with kids he has actually met through baseball, school, etc.?