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Dr. Michelle K. Murray, CEO of Nexus Family Healing and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, answers questions about family relations or mental health. 


A parent sending their child off to college.

My Daughter Is Leaving For College. How Do I Stop Worrying?

My 18-year-old is heading off to college for the first time and I'm a wreck! I'm happy for her and yet I can't stop all the worries in my head. And I'm really sad she's leaving. It's supposed to be a happy time but I'm feeling so lost. How do I get on board with sending her off to college?
Picture of someone frustrated staring at a messy room

How Do I Help My Daughter With Her Hygiene Habits When She Doesn't Live With Us?

I just read an article on lack of hygiene with an adopted child who has now returned home. I am having trouble with my adopted 22-year-old and her lack of care. She smells, wears dirty stained clothes, and doesn't brush her teeth or hair. However, she doesn't live with us so I can't control some of the things that would make this better. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Picture of two siblings distressed.

How Does Our Family Get Back to Normal After Our Mother's Passing?

My mother passed away last year and since then the relationships with my siblings have been strained. We have squabbled over the smallest of possessions even though we are all adults. Gatherings that used to be fun now make me anxious. Is this still grief over a year later? How do we get back to how things were?
Grandmother with her granddaughter

My Granddaughter Was Put Into Foster Care and I’m Concerned for Her Wellbeing. How Do We Get Her Back With Our Family?

My 3-year-old granddaughter lives with her mom across state lines. She has been taken away from her for a 2nd time and now my granddaughter lives with a foster family. We were her foster family the first time. We are trying to get her back with us because there is no reason for her to be with a strange family. What can we do to help get her back with our family?
Father talking to teen son

My Teenage Son Doesn’t Want to Take Care of Himself. Is This Normal for Teens?

My teen has no motivation to take care of himself - I have to remind him to shower. He sleeps all the time, and he has gained a lot of weight. How do I know if this is typical teen behavior or something more?
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5 Resources You Should Check Out From Our Library

With over 200 articles, videos, blogs, and tools in our resource library, here are five resources you should check out today.
A picture of someone standing away from their family, seemingly stressed.

How Do I Address Hard Conversations With My Family?

My family isn't good at talking about hard things. Anytime something sensitive comes up there is tension and they just gloss over it pretending everything is fine. I have something important to talk to them about, but I don't know how to bring it up. How do I start the conversation?
Picture of a mother frustrated as her toddler cries.

Should I Be Worried About My Child’s Development?

I have been having problems with my toddler.  He cries a lot and seems to be inconsolable. He is 2 and a half years old and is still not talking and he struggles to walk. He doesn’t engage very well when we play. When I take him to the doctor, she tells me to just give it time and doesn’t offer any other advice. Is this normal?
A picture of someone sitting outside with the sunshine behind them, feeling sad.

Can You Have Seasonal Depression in the Summer?

Everyone is excited about summer except me! There always seems to be something going on and I don’t want to miss out, but frankly I don’t feel like doing anything. I just want to stay home and watch tv. Is summer blues a thing?
A mother holding her son's hand as they stand in front of a school

We’re Scared for Our Son’s Safety at School. How Do We Manage Our Fears As the School Year Approaches?

As parents of a 10-year-old we are very anxious about the shootings that keep taking place in schools. We are glad it’s Summer because we don’t want our son at school because we are afraid of what could happen. How do we handle this anxiety and fear? How do we gear up for Fall and feel good about him going back to school?